Won't having those monthly checkpoint R talks just allow her to solidify her stance on moving on?
Each time it is discussed, she will further dig in her heels on the decision she already made.
Why don't you just observe and note the baby steps yourself?
Ed
She was the one who wanted monthly checkups.
My point in this was to be open and honest.
Ed, the realization is, no matter what I say, she might move on. Do I think there is a risk it pushes her away further, yes. But I do think by having these conversations, it tells her, I am a strong guy who will support you but will also move on when I am ready.
I do have to make sure the conversation doesn't bad mouth her decisions or threaten stance.
Simplest form it's a message saying, ya I am your husband, I still care and support you. Nope I haven't given up, yes I have boundaries, and yes I can move on (but not give up)
Lets see what happens after Monday. I sent her an email so we have it in writing. If she responds in a negative fashion I will tone it down.
Keep in mind this is a 180 for me. I have always been one to hold feelings and just accept things....I am no longer hold feelings and accepting it.
What else I got to lose? She mentally and now physically left......
