Unfortunately I got this e-mail yesterday from her in response to some questions my therapist had me ask her.
You asked me for a list of things that you should change so that I would come back home. Honestly I don't know if there is anything you should change. Because I don't think it will matter. Yes, you are too controlling in a negative way, jealous, needy, you try to manipulate me by saying things, you say things to see what I will do and say, instead of just coming out and say what you want. We spend way to much time together and when I go somewhere you tease me about leaving, and if you are saying it some where you mean it. I have already put one husband through school and the thought of having to do it again is not fun. But you haven't been able to find something that you like to do for long term. Which cause a financial stress on the family. And yes I know that you have had a problem with jobs and the economy doesn't help. And if you want to finish school you should, you should do what you need to do. That is why I will be applying at several different nursing schools in the area. I miss annika and would love to have her with me but right now she prefers you but when she gets in her teens she may want to live with her mom and you need to let her. We don't have to be like Gary and April we can still be friends and raise her together but we have to do what is best for her, and not get angry and jealous. We can wait a few months before we fill, if you want, but I really am not interesting in working this out, because for me it is too late. And what you have to offer I don't want. I hate to hurt you and sound this way but I am trying to honest with you since you don't listen to me. And please don't put annika in the middle of this, sometimes I think you tell her too much of what is going on, and I think it just hurts her in the long run. And yes this is all my fault, cause I left.
