My wife wants to separate

[Grocerykartman]

Others on the board can certainly give you better advice than I can on a lot of these things, especially since my wife moved out and it made it much easier to eventually detach. Any advice you get from me is more for working on yourself than how to ultimately make it work again with your wife, since I ultimately didn't.

There are success stories on here, see Denver 2010 (his wife moved home); from the female side 25yearssesismic is another one, and Sandi2's advice as someone who had the mindset as a WAW and eventually stopped and reconciled with her husband is invaluable. I know there are more but regrettably I don't recall whom at the moment.

I would re-ask you though, about your friends who always seem to want something from you and also about the times she was going to end the relationship before. I think that would help the board understand your situation better. Also, you say you think you are ready now, more than ever to change whatever she wants. What had she previously expressed to you that she wants? Was it just more sex and intimacy? Or did she have other complaints?

Hopefully others whose spouses didn't move out but carried on their extracurriculars will chime in, so that you can get advice on some of your other questions.

I wish you well.