Thanks for the replies, always nice seeing someone stopped by!

chatterbug:
I've had the talk with my X. I tried as best as I could to convey my wish that we would take it slow with introducing an eventual new partner. I'm set on doing it.
However I don't know if she took it too serious, initially she suspected me of having "another" woman for bringing it up.

BigBruce : It's important for sure. I don't have any expectations, and I don't want to rush things if a R is brought to the table. We will see.
The only thing I truly know for sure is my wish to be involved in my S life. Everything else is basically on a "see how it goes" stage.

Unfortunantly she gave me a "more of the same" speech today, but I'll get into that in my next post.

Together for 8,5 years.
S2
Interest in OM.
She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out.
No signs of OM, not digging.
Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.