25 thx u for your posts. I'm re reading them again now. Actually no I don't want her to unlock hers. Gives me to much anxiety and temptation. I just would like the txting and hiding of txting to OM to stop or slow. It's beyond annoying and when it's happening almost everyday friend or not an emotional bond is created . I know this because I've done it. Smoke = fire. This is why I personally decided to have zero females in my social life and anyone's that are associated through kids stuff only.
I guess it's better for her to start trusting me that I'm not whining to everyone via txt and doing anything stupid.
My counselor told me he thought my W was snooping to "find a reason for herself to be offended" or excuse to get out . I'm not sure i agree or understand what he is saying . Sometimes I feel he isn't the greatest advice giver but on flip side he has helped me with meditation and breathing 10x
You guys really have helped me start to not obsess. You have to remember there are lots of things that go on in my life that I don't vent about and don't obsess about. If you notice my anxiety posts are usually at 4 am when I wake from sound sleep. Maybe here I need to force myself up and meditate
Mr b has taught me when she does stuff not to react. Keeping kids, cook for myself, do my own laundry and the latest get my own ride to surgery. Don't sweat phone etc.
I'm trying to reprogram myself. The rejection can be hard but slowly I'm getting there
TODAY I went to church with me and my daughter . It was very nice and relaxing. Long overdue. Going to try to be more consistant with this . D loves Sunday school
