Won't having those monthly checkpoint R talks just allow her to solidify her stance on moving on?

Each time it is discussed, she will further dig in her heels on the decision she already made.

Why don't you just observe and note the baby steps yourself?

Ed

Me, 55 W, 36
T, 10 yrs
S-9
M, 8 yrs
1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa
2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa
W, AA relapse early 2009-Current
W moved out 2-16-2012
New OM 5-2012