H came in - I was lying on the couch because of the stupid dogs.
I sat up, asked him to sit down for a minute before heading upstairs. He sits. Rightnexttomeonthecouch. (Really? We do have chairs...) I scoot back just a bit, so at least I can focus properly and tell him. "I know yadda yadda"
You do not he says.
I sigh. H, you know me well enough to know that before I say I know something, I have to be damn sure.
He sort of conceded that point. So I continued. "I know, I don't like it and I consider our marriage broken because of it. So as of now our marriage is "suspended". I no longer think of you as my husband. You are a housemate - who at this point in time I don't particularly like. (Keeping tone light, conversational, NO TEARS!!!) You can go - be with your parents or OW, it doesn't matter to me.
So he spends the next 20 minutes talking about poker.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
