He's Just Not That Into You - The Sequel

[mamabird]

(the last post ^^^ is a little out of order - I wrote it on 12/8 but forgot to hit submit until 12/9)

But, did YOU FEEL HEARD?

25, this is a biggie for me. Maybe the biggest issue in our whole R. The answer, in this conversation is, "a little." More than normal, certainly, but that was not without a lot of effort to get him to stop and hear me. A few times I had to say "Stop and think about what I just said." H is not at the point where he can digest what I'm saying and think that maybe he did do something wrong. He is still justifying all of his actions (like it was ok to say he was going to D me repeatedly because we were 'in an argument').

This is also why I'm frustrated with our MC - MC is only pushing for him to be heard... i've been listening to him for 6 months now.... between the two of them I feel like my opinion doesn't count.

Also, when my H says, "I'm just trying to get us to a place where we can have a collaborative D" it honestly makes me think that I'm going to do exactly the opposite. His idea of "working on things" makes me feel like he doesn't love me enough to try harder. And that makes me not want to cooperate.