Thanks bruce for the reply, I am looking at my contribution and my patterns of dealing conflicts with my W. I just compiled a letter to my W to request her and clarify my position with my Son. I am asking for equal share. In the Christmas party she seem to just avoid looking and making eye contact while I was infront of her with our 2 friends and S. I was happy to see all of them, I was kind of apprehensive to start a conversation. She was avoiding a conversation. It is this issue W has that I don't have a good relation with her mom and I don't call her. I was thinking I would just take my pride and ego off and call her and remove any misunderstanding or resentment or just ask her to forgive me if I unknowingly or knowingly showed pride and arrogance. I am not expecting any huge changes in our path due to this but it will clear with both that I am not holding my ego and not talking to her mom. I havnt called her since S, my dad and mom called and spoke to her for long, at this point she says it's all upto my daughter. She was supposed to move in with my W but she is still not moved,she was retiring by oct end or nov.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
Bruce,25yrmic, mr bond could you tell me what I do - I have 2 wks for first court hearing, I was going to ask her directly for more time with son, I visit in day care now for 1 hr/ wk- I was going to text her and ask for pick up and drop off for 2 hrs a week at least, she is just silent now
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
Okay, going back to what is fair. What did your L advise? What can you handle? Can you do a 50/50 split?
Right now is not the time to think of your W. The person you loved is no longer there at the moment. Start to stick up for yourself and stand up for what YOU want.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
My L served her and her L took papers, we are wating on to hear from them.. For me, it needs to be 50/50
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
"I was thinking I would just take my pride and ego off and call her and remove any misunderstanding or resentment or just ask her to forgive me if I unknowingly or knowingly showed pride and arrogance. "
That sounds like a good idea. Add in the point that you respect her and that she has done a great job at raising a beautiful daughter. A little flattery couldn't hurt. Just keep it positive and simple.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Mr Bond thanks for the insight, I am constantly losing my focus and I need to get some cards or reminders to see we're I am going. Like weekly plan. I think I am still not detaching and hoping things will turn out well.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
She is just silent for 2 wks after we served papers to her lawyer, I was plannig to email her and let her know what my intentions are, like 50/50 of kid and make life simple and I will take all my stuff and leave . Last I texted was wishing thanks giving and I saw son and W in my sons Christmas party last week.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
My mother called her mom last week, it was not my idea,and she is still ranting on the acquisition that I have done lot of bad stuff to meet Daughter, which is totally baseless. w hasn't responded. I will send my email today to W.. I needed to talk to my mom about what exactly is MILs message. I havnt called mil, she sent and email to my mom after there conversation,I also need to see it.
M - 39W- 38 M - 4 yr,Date-4 mths Son - 2 yr day care S - 9/12 Divorced- 10/10/13 Visits with son other week Working on myself & son,co-parent,change,assertive,alpha/beta, entrepeurneur,care,heal,centered
