Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers today. It's going to be a tough one for you, but you have to do what is right for you and your children.
One step at a time, i.e., 1) discussion w/him; and then 2) w/the children. You don't have to go into every detail w/the children and just might want to say that you both need some time apart. I do think that your children already sense that something is wrong and I hope that they will be supportive of this decision.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
