um, I'm glad he felt heard and you didn't feel you had to interject a defense for every complaint he had.
But, did YOU FEEL HEARD?
The different set of rules he has for you, is old for ME, so I can only imagine how it is for you.
When you no longer make decisions based on Fear or guilt, I think you'll know what to do.
Be brave, be kind. And do NOT overlook the impact of how he treats you
on how your sons will treat their wives, and how they'll treat YOU...it's easy to skim over that but it's a HUGE concern.
My one present day complaint about my recon, is that my h's relationships with our d's has suffered far more than he realizes.
While he and I reconciled, I sort of assumed the girls would follow suit if I chose to forgive. But they did not and he did not address it directly.
And now, years later, things come out that I wish we had addressed then.
the boys ARE Learning from what they see and it's not a good lesson. But you can change the narrative.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
