Hey SS and RLA, thanks for checking in. I haven't been on much the last week, crazy schedule, finals and all.
So for a quick update...
When I last posted, I said that we talked about going through the book together, and H thought it was a good idea and thanked me for asking him. H started reading the book the next day and we went over the first two chapters after S12 went to bed. It was a really good discussion, with each of us offering our own perspectives. We talked for about an hour and a half, and at the end, H said he really enjoyed the discussion. He even ordered his own copy and a workbook that goes along with it. That seemed encouraging to me.
Unfortunately, he hasn't picked up the book again since. It's been over a week. He's mentioned it numerous times, how he needs to get back into it, but then turns on the tv or does something else instead.
I'm disappointed, but I'm fine with it. I read the book for me. It really has done a lot to change my attitude. I've been able to put some things behind us (me) because I can see what I did wrong in the past and can choose to do differently in the future. I don't need to depend upon him to change the things that I can change. Like reading the book. If he doesn't read it, his loss.
I've done a pretty good job of complimenting him everyday, in different ways about different things so it didn't seem like it was rehearsed. He receives it well. I'll keep doing it but I'm not really even sure what it's going to do, so I don't know how to determine if I should keep doing it based up whether "it works." But it's not hard to do, so I'll keep at it.
Other than that, I've just been really busy with commitments. It helps keep my mind off of things.
One strange thing. I have a desire to touch my H, just in affectionate ways, like a backrub or a hand on his arm. But I don't want him to do the same to me right now. Curious.
