Stuck between a hard place and the biggest rock.

[Big Bruce]

Good evening,
Not only I read the advice here, I also recopy it by hand on my thoughts book.
I think I'm giving you all the impression I am only asking for my son as a tactic to spend time with my wife. It is partially incorrect.

Primo, I have asked for 5 full days ALONE with my son (those are work week days where W is busy either at school or work). Therefore I cannot be accused of asking him to see W.

Deuxio, I can't tell you what my wife told me because I was in "reaction" mode, so I didn't think to ask her to clarify or repeat. It was a 30 second thing, you know.(Good ideas always come after a conversation, not during, I don't know why..)
It went about something like, let's work things out between us. But I don't know if she was talking about the R, or about the visitation schedule now.

Tertio, her deal was twofold, her dropping the D, IF I gave up pursuing more time with my son.
Since I sent her an email earlier this week saying I decided to continue the court proceeding (and btw No, there isn't an alternative to court system, because she is against me having young Bruce every other week, obviously, and I'm not going to take it out her hands and run away with him by force), there is no more doubt about the fact that having my son is more important than having her at this point.
--> I'm deciding having my son every other week, over avoiding the D !

And quattro, the final goal is yes, to get my W back.

So, the next movement is simple : -first see what she says about these 5 full days I have asked ALONE with my son before Christmas. She can refuse, after all the Court hasn't obliged her yet to share our son. (It is amazing that I have to spend/waste money to enforce such a basic right as this...). Anyway, this shows I want to be the best dad I can.
- Second, find out what she meant by work things out, and if it is what I hope it is, whether she'd like to go for coffee.
Going dark is maybe not the right thing now, but I have the impression she is tart eating, in the sense she has both the power and the control, and I am too nice. It is 6 months I am humble pie eating, and we've been separated since Christmas last year, I only came here in July, and she had our son all along when I asked her several times if I could have him more!
- Thirdly and last, my timeline is no timeline. Especially with Christmas coming up, I'm catching a plane back to France on the 23rd Dec., so it is very unlikely we'll holds hands by that date.
When I come back in January, I hope I'll have 50% custody of my son, my W will have to learn to live with it!

Tomorrow is my visit day, we'll see what's what.
B.