If something makes her uncomfortable then the thoughtful and kind thing would be to stop it. Also, it makes you sound a bit full of yourself. You don't want to blow you own trumpet.
You have a good point there. Luckily overall everything was very positive.
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What happened to, To W, today is a day to remember ??
that was what I texted on Friday, our actual anniversary. She knew about dinner, just not the show or gift.
A recap: 1st, the most dangerous territory was the first few minutes on the way to shopping...W asked how late we would be with dinner. I said I had a reservation for 8. She made a slightly big deal about why so late. I sensed she had plans because 8 has never been late for us before and asked. Turns out her office party was also tonight. I went in to this prepared to drop the date portion, so immediately offered to eat earlier at a different place and get her back in time to go. I know this was a 180 for me. The old me would have pouted or manipulated her in to going. At this point she didn't know the "reservation" was actually tickets to the show. She started trying to wheedle out of me where we were going, as she always does, and when she learned it was a place we had never been, she forgot about the office party. She's always loved my surprises.
Shopping was as great as it can be with two people who don't really enjoy it. I paid for everything with money earned from side job. Well, she actually got ahead of me and swiped her card at one store, but I slipped a couple of bills into the side of her (little thing I'm not sure if it's a wallet or purse) to replace it.
I still did too much attempted mind reading, reading too much into nuances of things she said, ie I saw a sofa I liked at a good price. Not in the market for one but it crossed our path. Her comments about it were You not We. Didn't like that very much but didn't show it.
We ended up with 4 hours to kill before the show. Nightmare in the making. We drove in to DC, saw the national Christmas tree, etc...talking about plans for Christmas...another can of worms...we peeked in but didn't open it all the way...
She mentioned her C session during this time. C says W is depressed. Her MD prescribed AD weeks ago but she didn't fill. She's going to do it now.
Ate at quaint Italian restaurant and went to club.
25, you were right! This was a bonding experience! Paul Mecurio was hilarious. W was a little uptight about the crowd at first (never seen her like that, offered to take her home) but once he started the W that I miss was back. She has a maniacal laugh that I love to hear. BTW, your warning about the front row: LOL not with Mecurio, he was all over the room talking to people, no one was safe!
After the show W raved all the way back to the car how much fun, how she's always wanted to do that, etc...
I gave her the gift and card, she loved it, said it was sweet.
On the way home we talked about the depression a bit, no real R talk, she is a nurse though and know a lot more than me about the medical side.
When I dropped her off at MIL where we met, again lots of thanks, a huge hug from her. As we started to separate i said "i dont want to let go" she said "i know", then she nuzzled her face against my neck. I said something like "I want you to get yourself better" she said "I KNOW" I said Soon! She said I'm getting the medicine which pharmacy is open on Sunday?
Lots of good here. Lots to be thankful for. Another small step. At one point on Friday I was ready to chicken out of this whole night. I'm glad I didn't.
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.
