So it seems the H is really stuck on checking my phone records now and wondering what I'm up to. Not that I'm doing this purposely, really just conversing with a mutual friend, but I think it has made him understand my issues with him talking with other women a little more. And I think he is seriously worried I"m up to something - which I'm not sure is a really good thing. I checked the records today, it's been a long time since I have done this, but after he was talking with me again today about it he mentioned that he wasn't talking with the other girls much anymore - and he was telling the truth. He has also checked my phone, asked about me deleting all of the messages. Uh, you have a LOCK on your phone, if I was that worried and up to something I would lock mine too. And he also reminded me today that we are still married - hmmm, seems I said that to him about a month ago. He is worried that I talk with this other person more than him and wants to know why some evenings I don't talk with him at all - I told him that with the situation it seemed he wanted space so I don't want to bother him or really know what he is doing. Don't think he was really happy about this. He has also spent 2 nights here in the past week and spent all day with us today, breakfast and decorating for Christmas. But while I want him around, I kind of feel like I'm making all this too easy for him - such as he kind of has the nest of both worlds, can come hang out here and then go back to his parents, basically having no responsibility. I kind of get the feeling that he wants to come home, but I don't want to ask him. I'd probably just get the 'on the fence' talk again. So what do you all think, am I making it too easy? I kind of feel like I just need to keep going with the flow - I'm keeping busy and doing new things, he notices - but I also would really love to have him home.
