The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

Yes, perception is the biggest problem. When one is confused and hurting though, it is hard to be oneself. I know I have to be, but it is a challenge.
Yes, referring to those that have replied. Clearly 6 people (+ kids and family) are hurting or had been hurting. The perspectives of those that are in it and/or resolving it like you and RegretfulLA are really helping. It is appreciated. I wish I knew this stuff months or a year ago. Understanding what is likely the closest thing to her perception helps…you folks living in her shoes, or at least as close as possible….closer than a therapist can relate unless they’ve been through it. It’s one thing to know the theory, but another thing to actually live and experience it.
It is not really a self-imposed time limit but I get your point. I have only started the 180 about 5 weeks ago. Is it only common with LBH’s or LBW’s too?
Not sure what to do if D goes through. Right now she is pretty bent on selling the house and working towards D. I really don’t want us to move apart. Neither do the kids obviously. So yes, the pressure is on from a time perspective.
What is it that turned you back to your H?
You mentioned on the 3rd that you were worried about my W. How so? She is in the driver's seat, no?