Not sure where Concur is. I think I told before I grew up in the Dayton area. South of Dayton actually.

Today was a hard day. H came and stayed with girls while I worked. He got very angry with me because I asked him about some bills of theirs (his & ow) that it appears I will be stuck with. I was told he has no money. I guess they spent the majority of his disability within 3 days. Who knows? Likely that is a lie. I dunno don't care. I do refuse to pay his bills though. I was never rude or loud or anything. Kids even said we heard him get mad when you asked about the bill.

Then apparently when I left they heard him say how he hated me and wished I would wreck on my way home. So mature. Love how they heard it too. WAFD.

Other issue is that apparently he was on the phone with her most of the day. They said if he wasn't talking he was texting. One of them guessed she called 7 times the other said more like 12. Who knows. Obviously it was a bunch for them to say that. Ironic. My H has never been a phone person. Ever. My guess is she is very threatened by him being here.

He was pushing D's to come meet her and stay all night next weekend and begin visiting there. I left it up to them. Again, I suspect that is her because she is so threatened.
The other thing I asked him why he never responded the other night when I sent him a text asking him to come over and stay with the D's. He told me he didn't get it. I showed him my phone and said well I sent it. I suspect she deletes text's from me. I have thought this for some time.
That pissed him off when I showed him mine. I think he realized and of course took that anger out on me.

Somewhere before I got home - I got all weepy. It just makes me angry/hurt how we always got the crap while it seemed like everyone else got the nice H. I dunno. I just was overwhelmed with how unfair the entire situation is.

We talked a few times during the day when I called to check on the girls. When I called at my lunch break that was not a good call. I still never was rude or raised my voice. I wasn't even snide or anything. None of that. Still it seems we literally can't have a conversation without his anger and animosity. I get the "whatever" line over and over. Or the I'm not talking about it or he just hangs up on me. Literally, it can be something mundane but if he doesn't want to deal with it that is what I get. He acts like a petulant teenager much of the time.

And here I am - again - one day of him here and I am back in a tailspin. I didn't let him know that but it's true. It has upset me him being here.

Funny thing to my face he is trying to be nice for the most part. Nicer than usual. However, if I say ANYTHING about the situation at all he is a jerk. Like I am supposed to just ignore it I guess. Or never acknowledge it.

So Bug would say what does Melissa have control of? Not much. How I react. I am trying to provide input into how the D's are impacted. I did say today to him when he asked about them going to his house - "I can't really stop it, however, I would like for you to consider what is best for them rather than what you or OW want. You know, within 6 weeks of leaving you moved in with her and that is an awful lot for them to digest especially right at Christmas time."

My feelings which may be twisted but I feel like she wants my life. Seriously. It's almost not even about him. It feels like she is trying to take over my life. She has taken my H, my car, my bank account even. I think she posed as me to get her electric in their name (the bill I am stuck with) Now pushing for my kids to come there I guess with this idea they will all be a happy family. And here I sit - powerless to do anything about it. I keep hoping maybe he will wake up but I don't think so. I think that is a lost cause. Really. I guess part of me is afraid they WILL like her and want to be there. Again back to how unfair this feels. Feeling sorry for myself today. I am tired and not feeling very good. Likely that has something to do with it.