"I am not certain it is self-righteousness, at least not for me I know it is not. It is clear disappointment, hurt, anger and yes some guilt as well on my part."

My H isn't either, however, that is how I saw him through my eyes. What is hurt & disappointment to you, may come off as looking entirely different to her.

You've made a couple of references to 3 H's and 3 W's. Are you talking about those who have replied to your posts?

You said time is running out. You are putting a time limit on this....and that just causes you to have more anxiety and to put more pressure on her. That's another thing that seems to be common with LBH's. They want the answer first.

If the D goes through, then what?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!