Once again, thank you for your words that help me to REMAIN CALM. I swear sometimes I can get so flustered with him I need to do Lamaze breathing just to get a grip. Hee hee, Hoooo, Hee, Hee...HOOOO...
The dance was great. It was really a priveledge to see my daughter with her little "gang', and actually see how young boys and girls interact with eachother. Interesting! Very different than when I was young. They played Michael Jackson's Thriller, and well.... the kids didn't know the dance! I was tempted to show them, but refrained. Later my daughter told me that I should've gotten out there and danced, she thought that would've been great. Gee... I sure am lucky to have a daughter that thinks Im so "cool". It really is an honor. I felt that way about my mom too. I was never embarassed of her and enjoyed her company as a teenager. My friends loved her too.
I really had no idea that MLCers befriend the "weakest link" out of the children! WTH is that about? And that's poor D10...for now.Ow is now attempting to warm up to D10 a little, but still freezing out D13. Well D13, she's become aware of her father's games and ways, and she's standing her ground with him more and more.So I can now see why D10 seems to be the target for Ow and XH, but D13 is shunned.
D10 said to me a few weeks ago. "You know Dad.... I think he's afraid of sister. He doesn't talk to her like he talks to me. I don't know why he says things. I wish he was scared of me too".
D10 always has been what we call an "informant" even before he walked out. She just feels she must report everything. You should see the texts I get from her (when she had cell service)... LOL the reporting of things is just something else, something we've just become accustomed to. She is very observant, thats for sure. I see Xh remembers this! He sure likes to talk her arm and leg off.
I still wonder, just what goes through his head at times. At times it's like he's actually got both feet on the ground and can act like a sensible man, and then other's he's so off his rocker into passive aggressive mind games it's not worth the effort to tell him to have a good day! He'll even spin that around on me!
The passive aggressiveness was always there, but never to this extreme. Basically Xh is a perpetual victum anymore, of course victumized by me. I mean like we've said before you can't make this stuff up!
I really hope to get the girls on my cell plan or at least get them a pre paid plan. Yes that really would take all control away from XH at this rate. All he's got is a parenting plan that states we need to be flexible or go by the rules, and that's it. I've got his wages garnished and soon the cell phone under my thumb, we're good.
Now.... if I can get him to quit sitting in my driveway for 30 minutes at a time when he picks the girls up in the mornings....maybe a nail strip in the drivway would do the trick!
