Dawn, I just wanted to let you know how useful and interesting your thread has been for me. I just read this whole thread and think you are amazing. Your sitch is sooo confusing, your H giving a running commentary must make your head spin. Im guessing that constant intense interaction makes it really hard to detach. There were quite a few things that were familiar to me ...home feeling like a trap, working hard to provide $$, telling me I am a good person and this is not about me but him. My H left only a few months after BD - those few months of limbo were just sheer hell and while I was devastated when he dud leave, I was eventually able to get back up and live life, detach, GAL, work on myself in that calmer space. I don't know how I would have managed all that if he had been living here all that time, like you have coped with. It does sound like you H is moving through the MLC stages which, altho hard work and confusing for every one, is probably a good thing. Progress. Better than getting stuck. Who knows what the future holds for any of us. I just try to live life as is he is not coming back, altho ever hopeful it hurts to have expectations
Me46, H49, D17, D11 M22, T25 BD Dec26 2011 he moved out Feb29 2012
