If you tries to gaslight you, don't react in a hasty and angry manner...stay calm no matter what.
I would suggest that you go to the bank first thing Monday morning and ensure that whatever funds you have jointly are protected. This could mean you setting up your own accounts. You do not want to be responsible or any spending sprees he goes on. Do the same w/credit cards. If they are joint and there are balances, there is a way around getting them changed over to your name so that he does not charge even more on them. I'll be happy to share w/you how I did it.
You have to get through the next couple of days and then the emotionally coaster will start for you, but I promise you...you will be okay.
We don't have credit cards. I did make a hefty withdrawal from the home equity loan account just in case. I already have my own accounts. We are actually only together on one.
About the gaslighting, I am most curious to see what he'll spin. I have decided less said is probably the best. I'm hoping to get away with something along the lines of
"I know you are still involved with OW. That's a deal breaker for me. I'd like you to leave ASAP. You can tell the kids you are going for an extended visit to your parents."
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
