The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

Hi Sandi2,

Yes, that has been my dilemma…it’s one of the 2 thoughts, and I have been trying to get to that for over a year. If it is rebellion, that is one thing, but more betrayal is another, especially in light of all her begging, pleading etc. You make a good point about the therapist pushing too. I remember her getting her back up when therapist asked W to look at me and explain something. W reacted with body language and therapist said, “Oh sorry, I know you don’t like being told what o do”. So therapist rephrased it. She had therapist on defensive. W claims she liked therapist though.
Also, I agree with the quiz’s and percentages. You make great points. They mean squat at this point.
No, she never said she forgave me.
Common etiquettes and courtesies should be extended to any partner, I think. A or no A. That is what I see as the rebellion part. She had to answer to her parents all her life. I always said where I was going and what time to expect me back just out of courtesy, for her planning and expectations etc. I have nothing to hide.
Yes, I needed assurances. She did bring me back into understanding and into recommitting and that is a huge leap of faith. I did need the assurances I was safe.

I like your posts. I really want to turn this around, but time is running out. She is cold again today. I doubt I will get anything for my B-Day tomorrow.