My wife wants to separate

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Thank you all for the advice! So how can I detach when she pretty much lives with me? She is home just about every evening! Do I talk to her? Do I be nice? Do I ignore her? I want her to miss my company but the natural impulse is to up the kindness which I realize is not doing me any good.

Anyone actually recover and get their wife back? It seems everyone I see is still waiting after years. Do they ever come to their senses and realize they can actually work on their man and get us to be what they want? Especially after a situation like this. I think I am ready, more than ever, to change whatever ways she wants.

I feel at this point my wife is having her cake and eating it. She gets to live in our nice house and still enjoys having her nice new car. She also has my companionship because I can't help but talk to her at home. She also enjoys time with our daughter without stressing about anything. But, she also gets to take off whenever she wants and spend time in a bubble with OM. What should I do, if anything, about this?

When do you start a little tough love? I want to tell her she needs to start having OM pay for her expenses, especially the gas she needs to go see him. But at the same time I am hoping she will snap out of this quickly before all of that. Wishful thinking?