The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

I am glad it helps you. No matter the reasons for the A, it is so hard to digest and accept for quite a while. Remember, anger is hurt.
I do love my W in spite of it all. I have not demonstrated that in a way she understands obviously before and after the A. I don't think she wants me to love her as it is easier for her. I don't think she wants me to love her as it is easier for her.
She took the kids out today as we have Open House for the RE Agent. There is lots of interest in it. It is a nice place. My 10 year old went ballistic and refused to cooperate with W to get dressed and leave. W kept yelling at her and threatened grounding. No consoling. W would not let me take one of the girls for the afternoon. My B-Day is tomorrow (Sunday) so I can only suspect that they went shopping. Tomorrow I go with the kids to my brother's family for my B-Day and to cut a Christmas Tree down. It’s a tradition that my wife started with them 19 years ago. This year she will not be joining us sadly enough. She was so close to them, is God Mother to my nephew and was very close friends with my brother’s wife. They don’t speak anymore and are disappointed that our problems seem so trivial compared to theirs and having 4 kids and married for 25 years. They tell me our experience now has made them grow closer even.
In my W’s begging and pleading months ago, she cried don’t let the A be the reason for our marriage being destroyed. Well, in a sense there were issues that were being resolved and still needed to, in the end it seems that is the death knell. I guess us 3 H’s and you 3 W’s need to put ourselves in each other’s shoes but so hard when we are blinded by our own pain and perspectives. But we must try.