LBS gearing up for the long haul

[Dm45]

Writing this down so I can come back to it tonight or tomorrow:

What do I EXPECT from this "date"????

First, I should not expect ANYTHING from her. Though I do have hopes....I need to recognize the difference.

I expect to get a large part of Xmas shopping done, and be agreeable about budget, and do a couple of 180's: take active part in selecting gifts (normally I loiter outside stores) and be the one in line to pay (I'm holding the cash)

I expect to be my best self...kind, loving, and fun. And since we had issue
Last night w/S16, understanding and forgiving when that topic comes up.

I expect myself not to bring up OM or living arrangements. If she does it, my line is, you are intelligent and moral woman. I know you can figure it out. If you want ideas I'll think of some.

If she responds negatively to my anniversary overtures (dinner, show, small gift), my line is, I can see why you feel that way. I've always strived to be thoughtful and kind on special days, and I don't plan on stopping that. I'm sorry It makes you uncomfortable.

If we have a great time together, I expect to see it as a baby step, not major earth shattering news. This might be the hardest! Just another step toward her seeing a different me.

I expect to be the new me, which is the me she married.
I smell good.
I look darn good.
I am the best man for this task.