Wife lost in the MLC-We are now separated

[sam4nh]

I'm not sure where I am....I must be on another planet, at least that’s the way I feel. I guess this is because I've been having a few bad days.

My W left for overseas Thursday. The only interaction we've had since we went to the mediator on Saturday was a call the next day to say she was sorry for the way I thought she acted. She also went on to say that we were not talking about our relationship, which is her decision. She sent a couple of texts on Monday about withdrawing money from the joint account for Christmas shopping and asking if she could drop off her dog a day early for me to watch while she travels. I responded that I would take her dog and alls I got back was OK, no thank you. Just before her flight I got a “Thanks” for taking care of the dog. I responded to her to have a safe flight and productive week. I really don’t know what else to say to her anymore. She’s seems to be doing a NC with me unless she wants something.

She gets to her destination yesterday and I get nothing to say that she’s made it to her destination, but I did see a post on Facebook that says, “I made It”. This morning when I got up she had taken a picture of some flowers and I did click “Like”, but left no comments. I’m trying to detach and this is probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m not sure why she has now cut me off almost completely, but that’s in her mind.

When she gets back, I’ll be leaving the following week to spend Christmas with my family the following week. She doesn’t want to spend it with me. She will be taking care of all of the animals and stay at the house while I’m gone. She also is saying she wants to be in the house and having her family over to celebrate Christmas. I can say that Thanksgiving was hard and I’m not sure how I am going to survive Christmas. I feel so abandoned. Any advise, because this really isn’t a lot of fun.

T^2 – I am still working on detaching. I’m also continuing to read, re-read DBing and several other books. I’m meeting friends for dinner and activities. I was telling a friend the other day that my W insisted on going to the mediator for a legal separation because I had posted a profile on match.com. She said it seems that when I’m moving on, my W gets upset and reacts with some type of escalation to make her feel better and hurt me more.