Your post was the game plan I had already formulated so it is great to be validated (Although it developed after a few exhilarating and fiery scenes/fantasies - but I can't actually shoot flames from my fingers so they probably wouldn't have worked anyway )
I would like him to go ASAP - can't imagine spending another night in the same bed - and the only other option is the couch... and if "appearances" are to be kept up for the sake of the kids... (Who I am sure know way more than I think they know)
And I agree about the load. Whether its the particulars of our sitch or just my personality, I can't get around him/the issue while we "play house". Man am I terrified about finances!! But other people get through this so I guess I can too.
Bless this board. Sure be lost without it.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
(Although it developed after a few exhilarating and fiery scenes/fantasies - but I can't actually shoot flames from my fingers so they probably wouldn't have worked anyway 
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