Sorry to post and drop out. Two friends died. This year has poured!
I have gone out on dates. Nothing sexual or intimate. But I've found them to be really revealing. It has helped me remember my better, most charming self. It has reminded me that we are social creatures and relationships can be a celebration of our goodness. While it has been only 3 months since my W gave me the boot, there was a very long time preceding it in which my W and I were not our best selves.
It has also helped me see my W more clearly. She has grown so hard and resistant in just the last three months. And seeing that makes me so much less angry at her for leaving.
And - it is fun. And - I kick myself for not doing these dates with my W when I had the chance.
It is all a terrific perspective changer. That said, I am clear with my dates that I'm NOT looking to get married or become intimate.
