Things feel like they are calming down but I worry that she is trying to move our relationship into "friend mode". I just don't think I have the emotional fortitude to stay friends with her and watch her engage in other relationships. I guess right now the goal is to keep one of her feet in the door so that the marriage at least has a remote chance of surviving.
I get what you're saying, but can I say I disagree with your action plan?
Sounds to me like she is trying to get to know you in a non-threatening way.
My advice? Take it at face value, and take it as it comes. Don't read ahead. It's not predictable and it's not worth it.
Your feelings are understandably raw right now. You won't be able to accurately predict anything about her for a long while. If for no other reason, she won't be predictable. Take that off your shoulders. It's not within your grasp and it's not reasonable to take that responsibility. Really.
Enjoy the time together. Everything else can go to the wayside and there will be time to deal with it later.
No matter what happens, don't have regrets about your choices. And know that you only control your choices.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
