Alamo - First of all - let's clarify about DBing. Hardcore DBing is for saving a marriage where you have a big investment in time, commitment, and possibly children.
Most of it is NOT applicable to dating. Dating is a period of time to FIND OUT if you are compatible with the other person. It is NOT a time to scheme, plot, strategize your way INTO a relationship. At this point in your life, you should want nothing to do with any woman who doesn't think you're just the greatest thing since sliced bread.
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When we met 4 months ago, we texted more than 1000 messages in 2 weeks and racked up more than 40 hours talk time within that same amount of time.
Ok Alamo - this right here is a problem. You're a grownup, right? A HEALTHY grownup doesn't act this way when getting into a relationship. This is unhealthy, love addict, infatuation behavior.
Look - I have a guy writing to me right now. He's funny and smart and I find him interesting. We will probably get along great when we meet. We are having a nice active flirtation, and text a few times a day, and have spoken on the phone a couple of times. But I'd guess we're at about TEN PERCENT of what you describe.
If some guy started texting me hundreds of times I'd run for the hills. Because in those early stages, you don't REALLY know each other. You have a FANTASY of who the other person is, but you don't really know them yet. And that kind of obsessive behavior just confirms that what's happening is fantasy, not reality-based.
Now, if it was really all that great, AND if she's not the mess I suspect she is, she'll come back. You DON'T need to do any more pursuing - she already KNOWS how you feel. And trust me, you don't want to seduce her back - you want her to come back because she can't live without you.
