And about the job and you feeling sad.

My X got a new second, or even maybe third job. As well as a nice appartment. I'm actually happy for her.

The way I see it
WAS can party all WAS want or do what WAS want, I'm set on doing what -I- want, WHEN -I- want. I hope I can live up to that.

Their actions shouldn't control how WE live OUR life.

And maybe they need to get their life on track before even being able to consider a life with us in it.
If we would ever consider R, I surely wouldn't want it to be b/c my X's life was a mess and she couldn't handle it without me.

Together for 8,5 years.
S2
Interest in OM.
She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out.
No signs of OM, not digging.
Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.