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He is afraid that you have not let go and that makes him afraid to approach you.


And we focus on what we fear. It won't take much for him to believe you haven't let go.
I mean, you haven't really either?

A common problem is lack of communication, which is why you need to set an example for your children.
Teach them how to communicate better with H.
If they don't want to see, talk about or hear about OW, then they let him know. But not by calling her a wh*re and being mean.
Communicating in a healthy way doesn't = giving in or letting people walk all over you.

Together for 8,5 years.
S2
Interest in OM.
She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out.
No signs of OM, not digging.
Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.