Hello all, I need some serious help. I found out my husband was having an affair when the other woman's mother called to tell me. Tell me about devestating. That was in April. I have been dealing with this since then, our children do not know, although I am sure they know something is up. He has said that he is not leaving me/us. ( our kids are almost adults, with the oldest being married, we held her wedding reception this summer), and he has said him and the other woman tried to break up a few times. I made a huge mistake saying I would be good with them being friends (assuming platonic not romantic), she move hundreds of miles away, but now he considers her his g/f and well me his wife at home. HUGE FREAKING MISTAKE! Since that happened back in Oct...I keep finding out things, like he was moving her to BC ( I live in Alberta), and now they made plans to go to Las Vegas next weekend.( my birthday is next thursday). Happy birthday to me...lol.I am so not good with this...I am almost to the point of walking away. Yet when I did tell him this...he reacted like...no you can't go! How am I supposed to deal with this..? I know what it is she wants...him, be his wife, have his children, even though he has told me and her he not marry again and does not want children.I feel like just when I think things are good...I find something else out that I was not aware of or wasn't want I percieved it to be and I am brought back to square one. I have working on the self improvement, weight loss ( lost almost 50 pounds in all of this), just feel sucked back in. I just want my life back with my husband, with no g/f on the side...anyone have any ideas? I don't want to lose him...but also can not live with her in my life. She is there constantly...I can't get away from it. I feel like no matter where I go, what I do, she is there, even in my own home. I feel trapped!
