In some ways, it has felt like being on a rollercoaster with a drivers wheel. You can turn the wheel but in the end it doesn't change what the rollercoaster is doing. I think I was really worried about turning the drivers wheel up until a week or two ago. Every time, trying to find some correlation between turning the wheel and what the rollercoaster does. But now I've really let go of that drivers wheel. There is NOTHING I can do that will change her. I have to just let go and focus on me.
Love this!!
Sounds like you are doing alright Greymeadow - good for you!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
