The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[sandi2]

I would love nothing more than my W to rejoin our bed. It has been 7 months in separate bedrooms.

Right at this point in time, you believe you would love nothing more than for her to return to your bed. The problem I read from so many is that once she came back.....then you would start to do like Regretful's H. You feel so desperate right now b/c you are scared of losing her, but if she decided to stay.....you would feel safe.

However, the anxiety of the A, her seemingly lack of remorse and seemingly lack of effort to build trust was too overwhelming.

And she was showing you your LL? Yet you felt like you did. It is those very things that eat away at the LBH.

I remember my H telling me that I had not even apologized for having the EA. I looked at him and all I saw was a self-righteous person looking down at me. I thought he should apologize to me for his part in the breakdown of the M. But instead, he told me he had done no wrong. It took a long time before I truly felt remorse.

So, if she can decide to end an A and stay in the M, be glad! It may take her time seeing that you can love her and not hold the OM/A over her head and punish her...before she can express remorse to your satisfaction.

I'm not saying she shouldn't apologize and show deep regret for what she's done.....I'm just saying that it may not happen like you want...or in the time you think it should be.

You have to find a way that you can move on and stop being like this, b/c she isn't going to work at doing her part if all she sees is a man like she's seeing now.