It is so important that you do not tell her how you feel. Do not try to get her to change her mind about the D. Absolutely do not beg her! She said a lot when she said you were disgusting. That is exactly how I felt when I was in an A.

As long as she sees you as disgusting, she won't return to be your W. The more you beg her, try to get her to go to MC, threaten her, make deals, or whatever.....it just makes it worse.

The only thing that usually works (if anything will work) is to let her go. Drop her immediately, and you get a life ASAP! I know this isn't what you want to hear.....b/c you don't really think it works. But you can see what you've been doing has pushed her further away. MWD explains in her DR how this is the LRT. It's your only shot.

When I say "drop her", I don't mean that you tell her what you're doing. I don't mean that you beat her in filing for the D. I mean that you don't say anything else to her. I mean that you drop that emotional rope you have tied to her. You've been holding it so tight while she pulled away more. Drop it. Make up your mind that you will do whatever necessary to be a better & happier & stronger man. You will enjoy life without her.

If she sees you emerge as the wonderful man you were meant to be.....she might change her mind. But usually, it takes quite some time. She has another man and she is completely turned off by you. Even if she sees changes, she has to be convinced that they are not a gimmick and that they will last. That why just a few weeks into new behavior is not near enough to prove anything to a WAW. However, if things do not go well for her and OM, by then maybe, must maybe she will consider.

Do you have what it takes, or do you still believe doing things your way is what you'll keep doing?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!