No she doesn't ask for help she comes to me in pain sometimes or I can see her in pain. So now I just try to be sympathetic and let her figure it out on her own. that's all you can and should do. She's not incompetent or a danger to herself. IF she were, you could be her guardian. But you're not. And you have your own issues to work on, so that is where YOUR energy needs to be. MAYBE if she saw you make progress with your own health issues, she'd feel freer to look at hers.
Lets just say there is a monthly pattern that she hasn't figured out yet. I know when she is going to get migraines and hate me. You might be onto something. But it also happens to be the FIRST thing a lot of men point to, to explain their wive's behavior when in reality, the h's have been lousy husbands... and maybe it's only "that time of the month" that the wife gets ticked off enough to act on her feelings about her h.
Plus if you notice, talking about HER PATTERN, keeps the focus ON HER and makes HER responsible for things that really belong to you. Why aren't you ONLY focussed on YOU?
I try not to offer my opinion on anything. I just say "you know your body better then anyone" etc.
That ^^strikes me as an odd comment. It's also NOT something you believe is true anyhow. Frankly, YOU think YOU know her body better, right?
So why lie? Just empathize.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
