Andrew, I'm glad she sounds like an angel to you. Better choice was to buy the regular book. She mentioned a miracle partner. Do you have a partner?
Re: your other two q's: 4. I think her sharing stuff about other people makes your bond stronger. It's the two of you as a whole viewing the rest of the world. This is really, really good. I always tried to get my H to tell me stories about his friends but he never wanted to share anything (he never did.) I'm not sure if it's a woman thing, but sharing these stories means we want to bond. 5. I hear you. In her mind, she's justified and rationalized her A as A okay--BTW you ARE funny :-) Anyway, it took months for my H to recognize that he had made a mistake. At the beginning, he even said he wasn't sure it had been a bad thing to happen. I was thinking, WHAT? But kept my mouth shut to follow DB rules. Looking back, I wish I had expressed what I really felt. It didn't end up making a difference. But if you can keep your cool, then good for you. It's so hard, though.
