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[MrBond]

"If my wife would have said no at any time I would have stopped."
"I did not initiate the sex."

"A contradiction is 'I did not initiate sex, but I told her I wanted to have sex" or something like that."

Don't need to look it up. You said that you did not initiate sex, yet based on your post it was as if YOU were the one who proceeded. Yes she didn't stop you, BUT she also didn't tell you things were wrong in the M before. You're going to have to start picking up those signals.

"You were in the room? you know what my wife wanted? well, now that you know could you please tell me."

Actually it was pretty obvious. AGAIN, based on what you wrote. You need to really break down what you post because it seems fairly obvious to everyone here.

"It's funny you tell me not to mind read, yet you give advice from my wife based on ... mind reading. You say .. "(yes she said okay, but for all we know it was to make YOU happy)" you have no way of knowing this Mr. Bond. None."

Actually yes I do based on your prior posts. Hey it's up to you if you want to really listen or not.

"You don't know her love language."

AGAIN, it's fairly obvious based on her complaints about you and how she's been acting towards you. Let me put it this way. YOU SAY her love language is physical touch. Well you've been doing PLENTY of that and has she come back? No.

But you did something nice for her and complimented her and you say she noticed. Fairly obvious to me even though it may not be for you.

That's what we do on the board. We point out the things you might miss because you're too close to the situation. Go ahead and disagree all you want. It's not going to make your M any better.

"I would ask we bring the focus back to myself. no one focus on the good things I did."

Actually we do. You're the one who keeps shooting yourself in the foot.

"So Mr. Bond...did you never make a mistake or backslide?"

Of course I did. We all did. What you're NOT GETTING is that unlike many of our other spouses here, she has communicated to you VERY well what she wants, but you spend more of your time arguing against it. Everyone here seems to tell you that some of your actions are wrong....Your wife tells you your actions are wrong...and it seems like the only person who thinks you're right is YOU. Could it be that MAYBE you're wrong?