Many,
I haven't read your thread completely.. but I can see why you are upset by some of the advice you are getting.

These people are here to help YOU. Yes we ALL backslid, we ALL got 2x4s.. it is part of the process..

... but its not about comparing You to US. It's about looking at your actions and moving forward in a better way.

And sometimes that stings.

Rule of thumb for me is that if advice hurts - I need to look at why. 9 times out of 10 there is something there.

If 25's comparison of rape is ludcrous.. it would roll off your back easier.

Yet you are attacking back... because you feel attacked.

Stop that. Figure out why their words are hurting you and express your feelings in a calm way.

We are here to help you. We are here because not so long ago... we were in your shoes.
((( )))

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.