Is it too late to DB?

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You are still so very new to the mlc monster and it's going to take some time to detach and then when you do, you'll not react the way you have been. It's difficult not to take this stuff personally, but it's called survival for them and the way they see it, they are "ENTITLED" to everything that life has to offer. When they are in this mode, they don't care how we survive or if we have funds to pay the bills, they don't care if we are sitting in a homeless shelter and above all else, they only care about us when they need an emotional fix or want something.

I have to agree w/your lawyer, it is a bunch of bs. They are going to ask for the moon up front and use this as a negotiation tactic. He should only get 1/2 of everything that was purchased during the marriage. If the tools were a direct gift to him, generally he will be allowed to take them. You should figure out what tools you will need to keep, such as a tool set of hammers, screwdrivers, pliers, etc. If there are tools that you do not need, then give them to him.

As for the home, you'll have to give him his 1/2 of the equity of the home, which means you'll need to get someone in to walk through and determine the current day appraisal value of the home. I would insist that he pay half of that.

I was one of the few lucky ones that had real nut on the loose. He only wanted his clothes and 1/3 of the equity in the home. I still have all of his tools, mowers, furniture, etc. Now, that's not to say that 2 years after the divorce that he didn't come back and want things...my response to his requests since the divorce: "check the divorce decree, I believe you have been given that has been stated on that piece of paper. You were given several opportunities to come and take what you wanted pre-divorce." Don't think that once the divorce is finalized that he won't try to weddle things out of you...they are good at that playing the poor me card.

You'll have to dig deep for patience and yes, a sense of humor later on. You can't help but think you are living the movie "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest".