trying to save my marriage Phase 2

[notsurewhat2do]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm in the same boat also. My D is 15, so she knows exactly what is happening and understands. You can see my "stats" on my signature line.

I'm not sure I'd be able to attend b-day with H and family. It would be too hard for me. My H isn't acting like he is even thinking about coming home, although I want him too. So I have to GAL and do things for me. It's hard, but I'm trying.

EXAMPLE: every year there is a group of good friends that get together for dinner at Christmas. H and I were "founding" friends and probably actually started the whole tradition. Never missing a year, even when I was PG and sick as a dog! This year, they invited me (I doubt they invited H because they all know H is wrong) and I just can't go. It would be too hard to sit with all our friends and not H. So I invited all of them over AFTER dinner for dessert at my house. So far, 10 are coming! YAY me! I'm starting a new tradition, making it comfortable for me and showing H that I'm going on with my life with or without him. I hate that our friends as much as our family is being put in this situation, but it's not my fault. I KNOW this.

Anyways, still no advice. I can just tell you what I would do. Maybe just a convo with MIL and let her know that you REALLY want to be there, but it would be too hard. Maybe D can go, because MIL will always be her gmom no matter what. (I actually went to my FIL's for Thanksgiving without H .. it was just me and D - they needed to see her and I wanted to spend time with them, they are very supportive of both H and myself - good people).

I LOVE THE QUOTE ... I'm posting it to FB .. hope that's okay with OP!