Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part II)

[labug]

AS, we all need a wake-up call occasionally. I know I have when I thought I had this by the tail, only to see that I was continuing my same bad habits, under the surface.

On the surface, I looked great but I was still controlling, still playing victim, still not taking my H's complaints seriously enough. Realizing this took me to a dark place where I had to face the music and own up to how I'd hurt another person, a person I had promised to love, honor and cherish. That his complaints weren't trivial or easily solved but important enough TO HIM to end our M.

Once I let those walls of pride, defensiveness, fear come down, I could begin to rebuild.

Read Mach's post again, try not to be defensive. It's usually the posts that bring up that defensive stance that hit us in the place we need to be hit.

Dig deep.