And you have only known her for 4 months? Why are you so distraught? Why are you willing to DB her like you did your xw?
Don't tell me you love her... I want you to dig deeper for these answers.. because I think there is some soul searching for you to do.
I see a pattern here between your xw and your xgf... do you?
She is not your xw so you do not have to PROVE to her that you are a different man or that you love her....
.... yet here you are.. trying to prove it to her exactly it
Why? Tell me why this relationship is THAT important to you. What are you afraid of?
I'm not DB/DRing per se in this case, because we're dating and didn't split up with baggage, anger, resentment and the lot, if at all. I used DB/DR as an inspiritation to recover and regroup. But of course, I tend to think, feel and analyize beyond that! I came here to seek advice because even though it's not a divorce/separation, I know I have a family of sorts here.
Like I said before, I told her that I was falling for her (during the first break up), so if that qualifies as being in love, then yes. Needless to say, she was hitting all the right notes with me. I've known many girl friends (not girlfriends) that I clicked really well with and became close, but my ex-gf was all that and a whole other level as well. I really wasn't expecting her to show up in my life; she had been attending church for a month before I suddenly noticed her the Sunday RIGHT after I won custody of my son. When I did notice her and finally started to know her, so turned out to be more than I ever expected. She was not the "kind" of woman I had envisioned myself with, but when she popped into my life....Wow. I really thought God was telling me to take a chance and jump. So I did.
The only thing I see similar between my ex-wife and her is that I seem to find women that don't come back to church after the break up.
