The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[FloydMan]

It does make sense and I am a competitive person, but some things are or shouldn’t be competed for. If OM is better option than her family and kids and I together, then it must be worth it to her. If she were always looking for better options, then I would always be looking over my shoulder, or hers. That is not healthy.
She did flip for sure. Funny thing is, in early April we were driving after a therapy session and she was bringing up plans for later in the year and she mentioned Christmas. I said “Do you think we will make it to Christmas? “(a dumb, needy thing to say, I know). She replied with an emphatic “I know we’ll be together at Christmas! We are going to be together at Christmas!”. It was so passionate and sure. 4 weeks later she gave up. We have separate Christmas plans with the kids now.
I think the weight of a couple times after the A I threatened the D too, and the last time I did was end of Feb. I was so confused and stressed over her behaviour, and I also laid guilt on her about the A in late April/early May. I was so frustrated with her not dealing with trust and being open.
I never did get that deep sincere apology, and true remorse. It would have meant a world of difference. I apologized so much for my parts I cried. She did think that was weak. I would be thrilled for her to say ‘I love you’ instead of ‘I hate you ‘or ‘I don’t care about you at all’.
She will be back tomorrow from business trip. Apparently last night and tonight she asked the kids on the phone if I was home. Where else would I be? I may GAL, but I look after my kids first and foremost. That is a good life to me. Too boring for her? Not enough mystery?
You need to tell your H how sorry you are, and be there for him. Yes, he has his BS but he is hurting. That is the anger. You are all hurting.