The house is for sale. So sad, Family is breaking.

[mamabird]

Sorry FM. I am just coming from my own experience. Based on what you described of her behavior, she was all lovey-dovey with you and then flipped. That sounds like she really, underneath it all, might still love you. When you DB you become much more attractive. If you were to "become the better option" maybe OM or potential OM wouldn't look so good. Just a hunch. Does that make sense?

My H did step up to the plate initially but a few years later he got very mean and angry. Threatened to D me about once a month. One time got so insulted when I asked him for help that he packed a bag, walked out of the house and texted a "massage therapist" for an 11 pm appt. Told me routinely how broken and screwed up I was. Etc. This was all against the backdrop of a horrible work situation so I felt like I had no comfort zone. I wasn't remotely interested in OM2, honestly I just needed the validation. Not a pretty story.

My H does not want to hear that I love him. What my H wants to hear is that I'm so horribly sorry. My H would like to see a real sacrifice to "prove" my love, but he doesn't want to take any responsibility for what's happened. It's tiresome and honestly I'm becoming less and less motivated to try. I guess this is all par for the DB course.