Hi Terry, u need to take a step back n give her lots of space. Until u start to detach n remove the focus off ur W u will push her further n further away. Re the jealousy etc etc was that before BD or as a consequence? These r all perfect for ur 180s. U r coming accross as needy when u ask her for confirmation - not an attractive quality and u r setting urself up to be bombed again. Its all pressure to the WAS and u have to control it. Don't ask her for anything, don't ask her about her whereabouts, what she is doing, what she is up to on the internet etc. When u see her be happy regardless of what is going on inside.
You need to show her a confident independent man that will be just fine without her and who she cld enjoy being around.
What r u doing for u and without W? Gym is my time for me, I do my thinking and sort me head out at the gym and wld find it difficult if W were with me.
What activites have u planned just for u? What do u enjoy doing just for u? Can u picture the person u wld like to be?
I have a mental picture of a better looking, more confident and independent me, a great dad that is succesful in life and fun to be with. I research online, I take care of my diet, I dress better, I maintain the house better, I do much more with son and I work harder at work. I see friends as often as I can and am looking at doing some charity fund raising in the new year. The energy and confidence this has given me is amazing. I still get down but I am fighting to be that person who I picture in my mind.
First decide Who do u want to be? Then plan steps to get there. Work on u and I guarantee ur W will notice.
But remember u do it for u and not to win her back. Regardless of the outcome u gain if that makes sense?
