My xh never thought I would tell him to leave "now". He thought I would sit back and take the threats and because of the holiday season, would go along w/what he wanted to do. When I came home that Monday evening and told him that I thought he should go now, not wait until after Christmas, he was shocked and then cried like a baby. After that episode, I never once asked him to stay. Just to prove to him what I thought about the situation at the holidays, I took down all of the Christmas decorations while he was out looking for a place to stay the following weekend. When he came home, he knew that I had reached my limit w/threats and eggshells. At that time, I didn't know about mlc or this forum, but I can just say this....I was upset and sorry at first about openning the door and shoving him out, but two months later when the ugly/nasty Mr. Personality began to show, I was more than glad to have my home to myself.
As for your h, time will tell about him. I want you to take care of yourself and not allow his situation to ruin your health. You've been through a lot over the years and now having to deal w/this, it can't be easy. I'm here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
