Looked the Gift Horse in the Mouth

[mizjjd]

Maybe he was hoping you'd read them and toss him out, especially after referring to the xw anniversary date.

Maybe he was hoping this. Not entirely sure. He did ask me if I read the info he snooped on his Dad. Which I didn't. And I told him that I had not. (a small part of me wishes I had...) He is pretty good about deleting his emails normally. I don't think he knows I've read the communications between him and his son. One thing to remember, H doesn't really care enough to build big webs. At least not for my protection, but perhaps for his own...

I have more of a sense that he thinks

A. He can fool me
B. Even if I'm not fooled I'll be so "unconditionally" loving, and so under his control, that it won't be the end

I don't know that he's ready to be tossed yet. I think if he was he wouldn't have that second email account. (That I cannot get into. Yet.) Because I think he knows if I found more of THAT garbage that would be "the end". I would bet (and I am NOT a gambler) that he expects to continue with our "comfortable" situation until HE is ready to make a change. He most likely could no more conceive of me telling him "go" than he could conceive of finding the dog standing at the sink brushing his teeth.

...but I would venture to say, he's hoping you will help him out the door at some point. Just my two cents.

Once he's decided he's ready? Yes, absolutely. He would want me to look like the bad guy in front of the kids.