Separation at 17.5 months

[Accuray]

I have read all of your posts since the beginning, and I believe cat04 has misjudged you here based on a venting post I think you needed. That said, anytime anyone challenges us here its probably a good thing, even if we critically evaluate their feedback and decide it doesn't reflect what we need.

My $0.02 is that you have made *huge* progress with your changes and if anything you have been too patient and too accommodating in the face of zero reciprocation for your efforts. After 18 months if the WAS continues to impart emotional anguish and you are satisfied with your progress its probably time to conclude this isn't working and time to do something different. In this case I think you're doing the right thing by dropping the rope and telling your parents and the kids.

Not that 18 months is some magic number -- for you, in your sitch, I think it's time to change things up.

People stike a nerve for one of two reasons, either they are dead on in their analysis of something that is a blind spot for you, or they are off target and selling you way short. It's up to us to decide which it is and if its the second case don't dwell on it. Their contribution shows care even if its off target.

I posted about my sitch on another forum and a woman was making generalizations about what a terrible husband I must be and making all kinds of assumptions, and when I didn't acknowledge and agree with all her points she called me disrespectful. It made me crazy mad initially because I knew in my heart I was not the horrible husband she was portaying me to be, but it was also a learning opportunity to understand that she was not trying to hurt me on purpose.

Accuray